There’s something beautiful about getting into a relationship or getting married. The love, compromise, and compassion it takes to maintain a relationship is a constant game of chess with your partner and yourself. So, how do you create a successful relationship? It starts with communication.
Talking is arguably the most vital part of being in a relationship. Unfortunately, no one was blessed with the ability to read minds. That’s why communicating clearly and effectively is necessary to gain your partner’s understanding. So, what should you be on the lookout for?
Master These Styles
Communication isn’t just about talking, despite what you may think. Instead, there are multiple parts to it – all of which you’ll need to gain mastery of to succeed:
Active Listening
Active listening goes beyond simply hearing your partner’s words. It means giving your full attention, putting distractions aside, and resisting the urge to interrupt or jump to conclusions. When couples practice active listening, they focus on understanding rather than responding.
Expressing Clearly and Calmly
If you’ve never heard of “I” statements before, then listen up. Instead of placing blame on a partner for your feelings, you must start a sentence with “I feel like…” or “I feel overwhelmed when…” This allows you to take responsibility for your own feelings while also clearly communicating an issue you may be having with your partner. Staying calm during these types of conversations is CRUCIAL.
Nonverbal Communication and Cues
Like many people, you may have subtitles for your facial expressions. Frowns, furrowed brows, glares, and tone of voice may be cues that you’re withholding your actual feelings. Neurodivergent partners may struggle to understand you if they’re busy trying to decode your body language.
There is Hope for All
Let’s get this out of the way: there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Instead, focus on having a relationship that’s ideal for you and your partner. At Empower Psychotherapy, our couples therapists can help you and your partner develop a more effective communication style to strengthen what you have. Contact us today to schedule your first couples therapy session.